Luka asked to be scanned last week and Myrrh and Marjoram came up. We thought nothing more on this other than a passing "oh, let's make him a roller ball with these oils at some stage". We have been having some epic emotional meltdowns from Luka recently. E.p.i.c. I initially put these down to age and growth and hormones.
But I paused yesterday and remembered what he had scanned for. I looked up the oils in my book of Emotions and Oils. More and more I am finding that the oils are equally strong for emotional health as physical health. Essential oils can't heal you emotionally. But like watering around a weed before you pull it out of the ground, the oils gently help highlight and deal with an emotion while you do the healing work yourself.
When I read the oils Luka scanned for I was in shock. They are both related to adoption, trust and security. I have to point out that Luka had the best possible adoption experience. It was filled and surrounded by love. Every person involved was acting from a position of love and we all still do.
But it was still a disruption and the birth experience was traumatic for him.
Myrrh- The Oil of Mother Earth
Myrrh oil nurtures the soul's relationship with it's mother & the earth. The oil supports people who have had disturbances with the mother-child bond. This disturbance may be related to adoption, birth trauma, malnourishment, experience of abandonment or other childhood issues. Myrrh helps the soul feel the love and nurturing presence of "mother".
When the mother-child bond has been disrupted, the soul may lose it's child-like ability to trust. Myrrh assists individuals in letting go of fear. As the individual learns again to live in trust, confidence in the goodness of life returns and the soul feels more safe and at home on the earth.
Marjoram- The Oil of Connection
Marjoram aids those who are unable to trust others or form meaningful relationships. This inability to trust often stems from harsh life experiences. Marjoram teaches that trust is the basis for all human relationships. It softens the heart and heals past wounds. It kindles the fires of trust in relationships so that one may fully blossom.
I have a really good relationship with my son, and he has a really good relationship with his birth mother. It's open and loving and he is surrounded by love. But he is obviously processing some big stuff maybe even unconsciously, to do with the start of his life.
So we did make him a roller and diffused Myrrh and Marjoram in his bedroom last night. This morning his room still smelt of both oils- clean and pure. I climbed into his bed like I do every morning and cuddled him. He felt relaxed and happy. I got extra hugs this morning and he spent a while curled up on my lap. He said "I love you Mum" over and over. There has been a shift, even overnight.
Over the next few weeks we will continue to use these amazing oils and I will focus my energies on him, loving him and assuring him of my presence.
I am empowered in motherhood and I love it!
